"Thanks for ripping my heart out and putting through a bloody blender"
I guess I'm just not destined to have a ralationship
Might have overreacted, will keep you guys posted. New shrink reckons I confuse space with rejection.....
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"Thanks for ripping my heart out and putting through a bloody blender"
I guess I'm just not destined to have a ralationship
Might have overreacted, will keep you guys posted. New shrink reckons I confuse space with rejection.....
Might have overreacted, will keep you guys posted. New shrink reckons I confuse space with rejection.....
Sorry to hear Renaldo. Relationships are hard. I think the secret to success in a relationship with another is having a good relationship with oneself. Another bit of golden advice which I have no idea how to do myself.
Yeah, fear of getting hurt has made me steer clear of getting involved for a long time, yet, I know this is not healthy. Its not natural and brings on its own set of problems. I guess one has to roll the dice and take ones chances. I am starting to realize that living "safe" is not much of a life at all. It's true what they say, better to have loved and lost that never having loved at all.
I'll shut up now.
Regards
You know where I started? I started "talking" to myself. One of the most important things in a relationship is to have conversations. Sometimes an issue becomes clearer when you write it down and read it later to "cement" detail into you head and understand. I am lazy, so I use an app to record it. Then I listen again later - after a week. I have learned more about myself and to understand myself. Adjust and become a better "friend" of myself.
So do not shut up - conversation is important
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Lol, me too. when I talked to myself while traveling in public transport or eating in a cafeteria etc, I used to get stares and smiles like a crazy person gets.Lol and I talk to myself all the time...
Heck lol I argue with myself and laugh at myselfLol, me too. when I talked to myself while traveling in public transport or eating in a cafeteria etc, I used to get stares and smiles like a crazy person gets.
My wife and friends used to interrupt me and laugh at me.
I used to get embarrassed, but then I read an article from a psychologist that people who talk to themselves have a higher IQ and are deep thinkers.
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The problem comes when you argue with yourself in public it makes my whife uncomfortableYou know where I started? I started "talking" to myself. One of the most important things in a relationship is to have conversations. Sometimes an issue becomes clearer when you write it down and read it later to "cement" detail into you head and understand. I am lazy, so I use an app to record it. Then I listen again later - after a week. I have learned more about myself and to understand myself. Adjust and become a better "friend" of myself.
So do not shut up - conversation is important
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How to avoid hawkers and sales people 101!The problem comes when you argue with yourself in public it makes my whife uncomfortable
Guys, and girls. If someone has been ignoring all your messages for a week, and refused to open the access gate at her workplace when you took her flowers, does that mean you're single? How do you get closure without and honest communication?
I think she has been sending you a message. Move on dude. There is much better things in life than to worry about one girl.
Do what you need to do to be able to come back, we will be missing your presence. Enjoy the music and the other hobbies and make it all about you, you need that. Don’t forget to forgive firstly yourself, and all those that may have contributed to your pain, then you carry no old baggage through life. Wishes for a speedy recovery and hoping to see you back here soon.Thanks for all the advice and sympathetic ears. I'll be back when I start vaping again. Hopefully soon. For now, I'm going dark. lol, I sound like a navy seal don't I. Going to lose myself in my music and other hobbies for a bit and regroup.
Ending relationships without closure and face to face contact is a killer. Currently going through the same thing. I have no answers for you, but I can tell you what doesn't work: begging, pleading, drinking and self-pity. Best of luck feeling better soon.If someone told you that you are unprofessional and ludicrous and you had a hell of a fall out so that you were told stop being a nuisance. But you still feel that you want to fix the relationship and the person is not willing to listen.... What do you do? How do you move on? I'm broken. Not because what was said to me, but it came from someone who I truelly admired and had the worlds respect for. Now I'm worthless in this persons eyes. Yes maybe I made a mistake, I didnt even really have time to explain what was going on. How do you get someone to listen when they already made up their mind?
Hi @Braki , you first have to forgive yourself and the other person to get rid of the baggage. This will enable you to go on. You will only be broken, worthless and useless if you allow yourself to be that.If someone told you that you are unprofessional and ludicrous and you had a hell of a fall out so that you were told stop being a nuisance. But you still feel that you want to fix the relationship and the person is not willing to listen.... What do you do? How do you move on? I'm broken. Not because what was said to me, but it came from someone who I truelly admired and had the worlds respect for. Now I'm worthless in this persons eyes. Yes maybe I made a mistake, I didnt even really have time to explain what was going on. How do you get someone to listen when they already made up their mind?
Hi @Viper_SA , good to see you again. Great advice for anyone, you are so right. Have a sparkling day!Ending relationships without closure and face to face contact is a killer. Currently going through the same thing. I have no answers for you, but I can tell you what doesn't work: begging, pleading, drinking and self-pity. Best of luck feeling better soon.
Thanks for all the advice and sympathetic ears. I'll be back when I start vaping again. Hopefully soon. For now, I'm going dark. lol, I sound like a navy seal don't I. Going to lose myself in my music and other hobbies for a bit and regroup.
If someone told you that you are unprofessional and ludicrous and you had a hell of a fall out so that you were told stop being a nuisance. But you still feel that you want to fix the relationship and the person is not willing to listen.... What do you do? How do you move on? I'm broken. Not because what was said to me, but it came from someone who I truelly admired and had the worlds respect for. Now I'm worthless in this persons eyes. Yes maybe I made a mistake, I didnt even really have time to explain what was going on. How do you get someone to listen when they already made up their mind?
Someone once made the statement that love is the way someone makes us feel about ourselves. Been pondering this statement.
By extension it implies that in a relationship love is the way two people make each other feel about themselves.
I guess this is why relationhips are such hard work. Keeping the other feeling good about themself even if you feel crappy about yourself.
Not undoable though. As long as the other party keeps up its end of the bargain. And we allow them to.
Regards