Support Group For Married Vapers and Ideas to Alleviate Angry Spouses

[Hooked]

I tend to get the eye! Or a conversation along the lines of, DON'T YOU HAVE ENOUGH !

So I have come up with some solutions.
1) Vape mail comes to work
2) All purchases of the forum gets "Swapped" for. Normally for the DIY juice I make
3) I Take her out for clothes shopping before unpacking Vapecon or Big orders received! Only unpack while she is occupied with new clothes, perfume etc. <- Very important
4) Similar to my fishing gear I under value everything by 50% at least

Hope this can help someone a little

@Cornelius And what will happen the day that your wife finds out the truth? Then it will be worse, because it will be not only the money which you've spent, but the fact that you've lied to her. Once trust has been broken it is extremely difficult to trust again.

 

[Hooked]

Luckily my wife has given up and has gotten used to the courier coming to deliver parcels a few times a week... but booking a cruise to the Arctic Circle to visit Iceland, Norway, and a few other counties towards the end of the month certainly helps!

She is so very happy that I gave up smoking and Vaping has changed my life for the better... she would like me to give up vaping but knows that is very unlikely to happen and accepts that!

And a few days away for VapeCon doesn't hassle her much...

But all that being said I'm going to make a concerted effort to stop being a "Monkey see Monkey want"!

@Rob Fisher I've been meaning to ask you when is your trip?

 

[Hooked]

Thanks @Arthster
That's a great idea -

However, I suppose you are the type of person that can work in and amongst other noise and distractions. Unfortunately, I can't.

I need silence and no distractions. If there's even a mild hoover, TV or similar noise going on in the background it drives me crazy. I need silence. I even have very strong earmuffs that go on occasionally to block out any ambient noise. I've been like that my whole life throughout my studies and work. I found it very hard to work in an open plan corporate office type setup. Thankfully I work for myself now and have been for over a decade - and I have a (fairly) quiet office. I also find it very difficult to "multitask".

@Silver I'm the same. I hate noise - even the sound of the sea. I often wish that it had an OFF button so that I could just hear the silence once in a while.

When I'm working I often use those silicon ear thingies which swimmers insert into their ears, to muffle sound. Problem is that I forget they're in and then I think I'm going deaf if someone comes to the house and I can't hear them clearly!

 

[Cornelius]

@Cornelius And what will happen the day that your wife finds out the truth? Then it will be worse, because it will be not only the money which you've spent, but the fact that you've lied to her. Once trust has been broken it is extremely difficult to trust again.

I think you are reading to much into this thread, I think it is meant to be fun.
I am very happily married. Also wont have the collection of vape gear I have if it was a problem.

 

[Arthster]

I think you are reading to much into this thread, I think it is meant to be fun.
I am very happily married. Also wont have the collection of vape gear I have if it was a problem.

Same here. The misses has my full support in her choices and I have hers.

 

[Rob Fisher]

@Rob Fisher I've been meaning to ask you when is your trip?

@Hooked we fly on the 22nd Sep! Back on the 14th Oct! I am so excited to get onto the Glacier!

 

[Halfdaft]

I think you are reading to much into this thread, I think it is meant to be fun.
I am very happily married. Also wont have the collection of vape gear I have if it was a problem.

Me too. My fiancé often refers to it as the breadwinners rule, as long as the bills are paid there isn’t much of an issue, my money is therefore mine to spend.

Though I think she enjoys the self inflicted guilt because she gets spoiled.

 

[Christos]

@Christos @Petrus
I agree!!! I had actually suggested this in my post below and then I saw this post, so I deleted my suggestion.

Pretend that you are Muslim. Muslims are allowed to have more than one wife, but they have to treat them all the same. So if the husband buys jewellery for one wife, he has to buy for all of them.

Essentially you have two wives - your woman and your vaping.

My wife and I have a very open relationship. She didnt mind me being at VapeCon, except for 1 rule. I can come homw whenever I please as long as I dont ask for dinner after 7PM which was fine because Rob bought me dinner

As for spending, I have had many hobbies and very expensive ones and my wife doesnt bother me as the bills are always paid and the fridge and pantry are always stocked and majority of my spending is actually on my child. IF my childs needs were not met then I would myself say there was a problem but I dont have half the issues people have with their wives as we are both working together towards a common goal etc.

That being said, I need to buy my wife a new Ipad

 

[Christos]

These are practical and easy to implement and they would be sure to win over any angry wife. I suggest that you do them for a few weeks pre-and-post VapeCon - not just for one day!


A comment
If your wife resents your spending one or two days at VapeCon, may I say that she has a problem. Everyone is entitled to me-time, even in a marriage, or should I say, especially in a marriage.

View attachment 176986
View attachment 176987
View attachment 176988

What about the man who bought a Dishwasher
P.S. The complaining stopped shortly thereafter.

 

[vicTor]

my trick is as follows, since I buy mostly used items I pay the person by EFT

in payment description I use "Speedy Auto Electrician"

only complaining I get is "this car is costing us too much !"

I retort with a "yes dear" as I take a nice long drag on my newly aquired atty